This is always a bitter-sweet day for me. As I post this the men in my family (the hubster, 2 son in laws and 2 sons) are in the kitchen. This year we’re having “Breakfast for Dinner”. They cook, they clean and they talk which is really the best part of the exercise. The “women folk” are relegated to the living room and family room with the kids to relax and enjoy their day off.
My family has over the years heard a lot from me on the adage “talk is cheap” so instead of mushy cards (which are fine if you like that kind of thing) or plants (which I will kill in the first week, black thumb you know) they actually do things that show not only that they love the women in there lives but that they appreciate how hard we work and how much we do.
Unfortunately other entities in my life are not as on the ball. They tell women how important they are but they make no change in how they treat them on that day. Women are expected to fulfill and meet all of their regular obligations if not more on this day. In the past women were given this day off but now with their overwhelming presence especially in the workforce they are usually the ones waiting on you, serving your dinner or filling your order instead.
So next year if you are so lucky to be able to take your wife, mother, significant other out to eat or to the store or wherever you go on Mother’s Day remember that many do not get to spend this day with their mother. For those of us whose mothers have passed on this is the deepest cut of all. We can’t spend time with our moms and others are making it impossible for some to spend time with mother who are still alive.
For those of you who hate your mother’s, please remember especially today, your mother did not HAVE to give birth to you. With Tiller Killer and his cabal there is no reason for any one to have a baby they don’t want. So thank your mother. You’re alive.