I just read an interesting piece on mamapundit. It was in response to the Time magazine article “Are You Mom Enough” and suggested that we moms simply deny the media and crankies the satisfaction of inter-female cat fights. The world with the help of Democratic candidates have been waging war on women and families since before Margaret Sanger hung up her “kill you’re child here” shingle.
There has been a steady march toward denigrating women and mothers which was at the root of the “feminazi” movement. Our foremothers who fought for the vote did not want to see women “objectified” or “devalued” or “put out of their jobs” as mothers. They are probably rolling over in their graves, actually they’ve probably stopped by now and are actively gnashing their teeth and itching to get their cold dead fingers on some of the most egregious of the drum bangers.
Our foremothers sought to make women’s contributions acknowledged, not discarded. They realized that the most important work anyone mother or father will ever do is in the walls of their own homes. Those who prey upon society and each other, for the most part, have only to look to the lack of parental involvement or sometimes too much involvement to trace their issues. Would all of them be model citizens, of course not. Without a steady rudder, in most cases mother, in the home the chance for children to learn to be decent, productive citizens decreases.
Are there bad mothers. Of course. Still out of the billions of mothers there have ever been, the children they have raised have been builders, growers, makers, doers, doctors, lawyers, businesspeople, inventors, scientists, teachers and more. These positive forces out weigh the who seek to destroy and defame. Today, however without a steadying influence in the home children are left to dangle in the wind like so much floss. With no examples of self sacrifice, service, integrity and no one who loves them more than their “job”, “career”, “new boyfriend, husband, one night stand” they wallow in a lack of confidence that is debilitating . Someone who is so tired at night they can’t help with homework, someone so busy in the morning they can’t make lunch, someone so consumed with their adult life they can’t bother to go to parent-teacher night or music concert or play.
Today many mothers have to work. It is a essential. Who drives that by making it impossible to live on one income? Who has not made the family a priority butyinsuring food, gas, homes and other services are not out of control due to regulations and taxes? Who has encouraged women to “Have It All”?
No one can have it all. Something has to give and in todays world it’s the family that has to give. It’s the family that can wait, that doesn’t need mom, that doesn’t need time together. They have Xboxes, cable, the internet and cell phones. We’re so connected it’s claustrophobic, but we a not close…………not even a little.
So my hope this Mothers Day is that we stop beating each other up. We start looking at what is really important. We begin to be the mothers we were meant to be. We are doing an impossible job, without the time, talent and knowledge given to any other “business”. We need stop selling ourselves short, stop comparing ourselves to others and stop allowing ourselves to be taken advantage of by giving away what should be held close, self respect and dignity. We are Mothers……….we are better than what the world would assure us we can settle for.
MOTHERS DON’T SETTLE.