In the last couple of months there has seemed to be a preponderance of events focusing on violence perpetrated by those who are mentally ill. It could be postulated that anyone who murders groups of people, innocents, children, those in service to the community and the elderly are ipso facto mentally deranged. That they are also morally bankrupt goes without saying.
So where will the blame come to rest. On a society that has steadily disintegrated into a boiling, churning mass of egos, offenses and victimhood? On a government so intrusive as to be incestuous? On a justice system that is deaf, dumb and blind to the eternal consequences of the abdication of it’s responsibilities? On a school system fractured from within and assaulted from without? On a political system that promotes incompetence, ineptness and ignorance over anything remotely successful?
In reality the basic bedrock of our problem, the core of our illness, the site of our cancerous tumor is the deplorable condition of the American Family.
This once great, noble and essential organization has become a catch all for any group of people united by whatever nebulous ties they choose to attach themselves to. Mothers and fathers have become passe. Grandmothers and Grandfathers are lost in a crowd of step-this and step-that. There are half brothers, step sisters, partners, companions, common law this or that. Most people never even see cousins in their life times. Families that used to live in the same city now no longer even live in the same area of the country. There is no real support system, no one knows anyone else well enough to tell when they are going off the rail, and in reality everyone is so focused on their own issues and ambitions that even if someone told them, they wouldn’t pay any attention.
Of course one of the major issues in the destruction of the family is the feminist falsehood ” you can have it all”. Of course you can’t have it all. Only an idiot would believe that. Something will have to give and for the past 50 years at least that thing has been the family. Why are our children not doing as well in school? Because there are very few responsible parents at home to make sure children DO their homework, that they are doing it correctly and that they are turning it in at school and if they don’t that there are consequences that can be enforced. Our children are being brought up by strangers who have no vested interest in their success and are mainly interested in a paycheck. On the other side people who work in daycare can often be heard to complain about children who come unprepared for the day, no breakfast, in pajamas, with dirty diapers and unwashed. Teachers deal with the same issues. Children who obviously got themselves to school or the bus without coats, gloves, sometimes socks and shoes in the coldest weather.
Parents are under fire as well. In this economy both are having to work sometimes multiple jobs just to make ends meet. Of course the fact that they “need” a new car, or smart phone, or computer or TV or what ever the newest thing is doesn’t help. These parents are exhausted beyond measure physically, intellectually and emotionally thanks in no small part to workplaces that are a sources of stress and contention with environments like ” The Office” the norm instead of simply fodder for inane situation comedies. Bosses are arbitrary, vindictive and mercurial and jobs are either stressfully complicated or insanely boring. We have lost our way, becoming less humane and much more animalistic. The abdication of morality has brought us to the brink of annihilation and we are heading over the cliff like the lemmings we’ve become.
So instead of making life better, instead of inclusion, instead of acceptance we have become alienated, isolated and self absorbed. We spend our time alone on the computer or on the phone. Next time you are in a gathering look around and see how many people are on their I Pods, cell phones, I Pads or the like. How many people have a plug in their ear all the time. How many people actually enjoy interacting with those around them? This should tell you why we have people cracking under the strain. It doesn’t really take a village to raise a healthy child. It may help but it is essential to have a functioning family in order to produce productive, mentally stable citizens. To many this is an offensive stand but it doesn’t make it any less true.
Families are the cornerstone on which civilizations are built. We have massive cracks in our foundation and if we don’t look to our own families we may not have civilization to save.